Pondering relationships...

There are two stages of relationships... 

first stage is passionate - where people are curious about each other, they want to spend every minute with each other, can not keep their hands off each other and whatnot... 

there is newness, butterflies in stomach, there is not much history of arguments and fights, it is as good as a blank slate, I mean yes, there are also some negative emotions associated in this phase... because they are trying to figure each other out, 

so there can be misunderstandings, overreactions, trust issues, misinterpretations and whatnot...

People fly high in the first phase... the question is not how high they fly... the question is how they land. The landing has to be smooth, it can not crash when it lands, because the landing is stage 2 of relationships all relationships reach the second stage (the ones that survive) .. some in few weeks, some in months and some in years... it is impossible for human beings to survive in the passionate stage for long... the fantasies are taken over by reality... and also by routine and getting into mundane things that need to be taken care of. 

And I call the second stage ‘compassionate stage’ - In this stage there is familiarity... couples know what the other person likes dislikes, there is probably less passion left but then there is love... and it can be stronger and more on an emotional level because of togetherness, being there for each other through sickness to success... and getting into a comfort zone where people don't have to dress up for each other or hide behind any pretenses. You know you can depend, rely on this person through thick and thin... things are predictable.

In compassionate stage couples truly become a unit, a family, they care for each other, they become one... metaphorically... they tap into each other's rhythm, moods, routine, there is trust. Some couples actually start looking like each other.

 I mean the first stage is quite luring, intense, beautiful but second stage can be more amazing... and more stress free... because it can take us to beautiful bond of companionship... 

What are your thoughts?