Not small issues

Sometimes I feel women are going through a lot and what I talk about on this blog are all minor issues. Women are treated badly and the examples of women's issues that you will read on this blog are not of those who are not allowed to drive or leave the house without a man by their side. Because let's be honest I don't come from that world. I am treated as an equal in each of my relationships since childhood, and now I am at a stage in life where I don't keep the relationships in which I am not treated fair and square :-).

Most of the women that I hang out with belong to the exact same category, and yet I get to hear stories of misbehavior, gender bias and emotional torture by people - It is sad and disheartening to see this happen.

So yes, the points that I am bringing up are smaller compared to what women in the world are going through and yet I am opting to write about them because I can not sit on my arse and say 'it's okay, women are going through worse and these are just minor things'. These are not. These things are still torturous for women who live in my kind of world. They don't need to go through this hassle and emotional torture.

If you are in pain you will get to hear 'oh people go through worse, they go through cancer, brain tumor, what you are complaining about is nothing compared to that'. Well, people are going through worse does not take away the pain that you are experiencing. Does it? You will get a perspective about your pain but those words do not heal the pain. Similarly, women in the world are going through worse does not mean you too have to. As simple as that.

Sound of silence

 

Oh bondage! Up yours!

 Some people think little girls should be seen and not heard. But I think…

Here is the lyrics and meaning of one of my favorite songs - Oh bondage! Up yours!

Some people think little girls should be seen and not heard
But I think "oh bondage, up yours!"
One-two-three-four!

Bind me, tie me, chain me to the wall
I wanna be a slave to you all

Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more
Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more

Chain-store chainsmoke, I consume you all
Chain-gang chainmail, I don't think at all

Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more
Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more

Thrash, me crush me, beat me till I fall
I wanna be a victim for you all

Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more
Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more

Bind me, tie me, chain me to the wall
I wanna be a slave to you all

Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more
Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more

Bind me, tie me, chain me to the wall
I wanna be a slave to you all

Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more
Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more

Oh bondage, up yours
Oh bondage, no more!

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The song is not about sex, but about consumerism: "Chain store, chain smoke, I consume you all / Chain gang, chain mail, I don't think at all!

In this one utterance, Styrene transformed a seemingly masochistic plea into an indictment of consumer culture, denouncing the blind impulses of the mainstream shopper. In depicting herself as both an agent of and resister to her submission, she created a parody of both positions, juxtaposing them powerfully against each other.

We are in a type of bondage—restricted, crushed, and alienated by modern materialistic society. The goal of our society is sense gratification—that is the only prize on offer. But one can never satisfy the senses; it is an impossible goal.

Hope you like this song!

Controlling Indian Parents

The love and bond that a child and parent share is immensely beautiful. Parents provide the affection, direction, security, wiseness needed to survive, grow and be good humans. Even though we are born with an inherited set of genes, every child has his/her own traits, personality, dreams, attitude, desires, opinions and definitions of right or wrong.

'You can not marry that girl, chose X profession, you should live in Y city'...
If you act any other way we will be immensely hurt, we did such and such sacrifices for you and this is how you return the favor?'. I am sure you have heard this before. Parents start taking control of their children's life thinking they have a right to make decisions for their offspring.

Are we owners of someone's life simply because we brought them to this world?

No child born on planet Earth told their parents 'I want to experience life, I want to be born, please give me birth'. The nature creates the want in most living individuals to experience all the aspects associated with having a kid. Our genes are selfish they want to keep on living. If a parent is providing care, love, protection to their child, making all sorts of sacrifices then they are not doing anything out of ordinary. They do it simply because they are wired to do so. Why talk about favors then?

Until when would you interfere in decision making of your children? At certain age you need to start setting them free. Let them make their own mistakes and learn from it (I hope you get it when I say decisions and mistakes I am not talking about drugs or murder). Every individual will feel the need to fly, sometimes even towards that blazing Sun. Provide the strength to their wings to fly and reach their desired destination. Alter your strategy to match their personality. Don't be a controlling Indian parent, Let your children figure out something that you were unable to - the meaning of life, the goal of their existence. 

Best 5 in history

 

Favorite Songs Playlist

 Sharing the list of my favorite songs. The playlist is available on YouTube -- here is the link --
Favorite songs playlist