tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-268276452024-03-13T17:57:09.228-07:00Rasika MahabalRasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.comBlogger358125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-61400196121415986812024-02-04T10:53:00.000-08:002024-02-04T10:53:12.921-08:00New video - awesome board games<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/z575WAb2nH4" width="320" youtube-src-id="z575WAb2nH4"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-17213953226773096452024-01-17T08:53:00.000-08:002024-01-19T18:51:14.128-08:00Best books I read in 2023<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="319" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/SJ9lO3nH2ho" width="483" youtube-src-id="SJ9lO3nH2ho"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-69489809282097774042023-12-31T08:35:00.000-08:002023-12-31T08:36:23.063-08:00My writing process- the journey of a novel<p> New video available on my YouTube channel now.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/EUKT7nlFmJo" width="320" youtube-src-id="EUKT7nlFmJo"></iframe></div><br /><p><br /></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-23415920923331714922023-08-21T13:50:00.001-07:002023-08-21T13:50:05.140-07:00Depp V Heard<p>The show is on Netflix - based on real events- It made me think about what is a violent relationship. </p><p>someone who shows anger in an aggressive manner - throwing things around - banging doors , angry loud words - these are all intimidation tactics- by saying this is how I show anger doesn’t make it non-intimidating- </p><p>would a woman feel scared with this person ? Yes! </p><p>For the world there was no violence involved- because hand wasn’t raised or so he claimed - but then it is worse as one is living with fear, and suppressed around the person, </p><p>there are some women who do not keep quiet and they oppose/ react and they use angry words too - </p><p>They become amber heard.</p><p>She was brutally abused on social media and no one talked about depp’s behavior- probably because the society accepts it saying men will be men.</p><p>So then what is a violent relationship? And how do you define being violent? </p><p>I feel all women should watch it. Because many must be living like that.</p><p>Of course depp heard is an extreme case as there were drugs and alcohol involved.</p><p>Just finished watching it and the verdict is just boiling my blood.</p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-84498089176807870472023-03-28T14:23:00.002-07:002023-03-28T14:23:53.888-07:00Are you being productive? <p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="391" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/GREsYUGVEf4" width="320" youtube-src-id="GREsYUGVEf4"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-31162926331160595822023-03-10T08:55:00.001-08:002023-03-10T08:55:14.304-08:00My new video - Fermat's Enigma<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="379" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/erMFQNKvGn4" width="494" youtube-src-id="erMFQNKvGn4"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-79912198207984087882023-03-03T20:14:00.002-08:002023-03-13T07:10:25.834-07:00Pathaan<p>They are saying that Pathaan made more money than Dangal. </p><p>I don’t understand why and how money, number of people watching or number of followers become a metric for success.</p><p>Dangal was a good movie and moreover an important one - irrespective of how much it made. It will be watched and loved for many many years. </p><p>The only thing that Pathaan does is it sets a new level of low IQ for Bollywood movies. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-83194014143158455672023-02-06T14:44:00.002-08:002023-03-13T07:09:57.547-07:00Men commenting on gender equality...<p><span style="background-color: white; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; white-space: pre-wrap;">I believe that men can have a voice on all gender issues, and I hope they do. </span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; white-space: pre-wrap;">But invalidating is a way of taking away the value of lived experience just because you haven't lived it. </span></p><span class="style-scope yt-formatted-string" dir="auto" style="--tw-ring-color: rgba(100, 149, 237, 0.5); --tw-ring-inset: var(--tw-empty, ); --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; white-space: pre-wrap;">
</span><span class="style-scope yt-formatted-string" dir="auto" style="--tw-ring-color: rgba(100, 149, 237, 0.5); --tw-ring-inset: var(--tw-empty, ); --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; white-space: pre-wrap;">Gaslighting someone – is not the solution to gender equality issues. </span><div><span class="style-scope yt-formatted-string" dir="auto" style="--tw-ring-color: rgba(100, 149, 237, 0.5); --tw-ring-inset: var(--tw-empty, ); --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; white-space: pre-wrap;">We simply need to think and Raise our understanding.
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</span><span class="style-scope yt-formatted-string" dir="auto" style="--tw-ring-color: rgba(100, 149, 237, 0.5); --tw-ring-inset: var(--tw-empty, ); --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; white-space: pre-wrap;">As a man, you will never get to experience women’s day-to-day issues. </span></div><div><span class="style-scope yt-formatted-string" dir="auto" style="--tw-ring-color: rgba(100, 149, 237, 0.5); --tw-ring-inset: var(--tw-empty, ); --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; white-space: pre-wrap;">So, you definitely get to listen, try to understand, ask questions, but not invalidate.
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</span><span class="style-scope yt-formatted-string" dir="auto" style="--tw-ring-color: rgba(100, 149, 237, 0.5); --tw-ring-inset: var(--tw-empty, ); --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; white-space: pre-wrap;">
</span><span class="style-scope yt-formatted-string" dir="auto" style="--tw-ring-color: rgba(100, 149, 237, 0.5); --tw-ring-inset: var(--tw-empty, ); --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; white-space: pre-wrap;">It's good to try to understand and accept others' experiences and how they view the world. Understanding helps foster empathy and increases your ability to connect with others and your ability to think about how the world works. Being able to empathize with others can help improve your relationships and even your minor interactions with strangers.
</span><span class="style-scope yt-formatted-string" dir="auto" style="--tw-ring-color: rgba(100, 149, 237, 0.5); --tw-ring-inset: var(--tw-empty, ); --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; white-space: pre-wrap;">
</span><span class="style-scope yt-formatted-string" dir="auto" style="--tw-ring-color: rgba(100, 149, 237, 0.5); --tw-ring-inset: var(--tw-empty, ); --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); --tw-shadow: 0 0 rgba(0,0,0,0); background: rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #0f0f0f; font-family: Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; white-space: pre-wrap;">As for what you can do about these things, just knowing these issues exist is a start. Start thinking about why they exist and how you might be perpetuating certain problems. Think about how you can adjust your behavior so that everyone is generally happier. Just being aware of a problem can help, so it's important to listen to women (or anyone, really) and not dismiss their experiences. </span></div>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-40331455992438412802023-02-05T22:52:00.001-08:002023-02-05T22:52:13.515-08:00My new video - the tinnitus story<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/19XLtH62f2M" width="320" youtube-src-id="19XLtH62f2M"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-25552694671540845602022-12-31T13:37:00.001-08:002022-12-31T13:37:00.141-08:00How To Lose weight and be healthy?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;"><b><i><u><br /></u></i></b></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-size: medium;"><b><i><u><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjKzBDAPouoeJ1vhb2F0Whd2PtT29XhXvw8VcO4Skbb0aIbOS3goRZd39042lv03xZtgkm-_5zwfY9sBaSCKiTCQzkivpgdI9iCRlWOTDJd0AtTbHfMgQbfRjeQ5ouJ7G9TNNa47u_QYkso63Pgi3Z_NlBOSqZLrHRIpQupFby0nfBAVsSgg/s640/2.jpeg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="341" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjKzBDAPouoeJ1vhb2F0Whd2PtT29XhXvw8VcO4Skbb0aIbOS3goRZd39042lv03xZtgkm-_5zwfY9sBaSCKiTCQzkivpgdI9iCRlWOTDJd0AtTbHfMgQbfRjeQ5ouJ7G9TNNa47u_QYkso63Pgi3Z_NlBOSqZLrHRIpQupFby0nfBAVsSgg/s320/2.jpeg" width="171" /></a></div><br />1. Why did I want to lose weight?</u></i></b><br />
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The main reason for my weight loss project was very superficial - Every morning when I looked at myself in the mirror I did not like what I saw. Now one may wonder 'why do you care so much about how you look?'. Well, when you buy good clothes, jewelry, shoes, brands, get haircuts, manicure, pedicure - are you doing it for some kind of social service? Nope, you do that to look good/ presentable.<br />
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I truly believe that one may be adorned with diamonds, jewels, Prada or Chanel worth 1000 bucks but fitness looks the loveliest of all. Fit people are the most attractive people even if they are wearing torn clothes. One may be covered with gold but fitness is that Philosopher's stone that makes YOU look gold.<br />
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Also being overweight can cause a lot of medical issues. <br />
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<b><i><u>2. Reasons for weight Gain?</u></i></b><br />
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One may put on weight because of several reasons: medical issues, bad diet, sedentary lifestyle etc. but the most lame reason I have heard for being overweight is 'It is genetic!'. </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;">The only thing that is genetic or so to say runs in the family is lifestyle, choice of diet and exercise. It is too convenient to blame it on genetics.<br />
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I weighed 175 pounds not too long ago. I covered myself with loose clothes/ scarves/ jackets and still was congratulated by many strangers at malls, social gatherings on being pregnant </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;">(I was NOT). It was terrible, I felt depressed.<br />
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I got angry at people if they pointed out what and how much I ate or how fat I looked.<br />
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<b><i><u><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjChVdrbLqyN5hWcTQhniBWumDgjlAlwcj95PV8UTys25P0RmW8ShFODZxxOFiu7mIuP_k25NMb8Z0-agsSa0LxDQgMaXiauJk6lEzWvGUL97ZQ9O6RrH_ALYSNrATpl5IyozFs6rCJimCRNC4uBURSX9k2lrOt3Uy-OFsdJ3fiNystlR-dDQ/s640/3.jpeg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="416" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjChVdrbLqyN5hWcTQhniBWumDgjlAlwcj95PV8UTys25P0RmW8ShFODZxxOFiu7mIuP_k25NMb8Z0-agsSa0LxDQgMaXiauJk6lEzWvGUL97ZQ9O6RrH_ALYSNrATpl5IyozFs6rCJimCRNC4uBURSX9k2lrOt3Uy-OFsdJ3fiNystlR-dDQ/s320/3.jpeg" width="208" /></a></div><br />3. How much weight is perfect?</u></i></b><br />
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The definition of perfect weight varies from person to person depending on the level of our laziness and disillusionment. </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;">I referred to this chart - http://www.calculator.net/ideal-weight-calculator.html trying to match the weight suggested by Robinson formula (for my height and age).<br />
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It is possible that you are kind of a person who is comfortable in your skin and weight issues do not bother you much. May be you are someone who carries that belly fat with pride, in that case this post is not for you. You can go back to being disillusioned, it's hard to take the weight loss challenge until we are out of the denial phase.<br />
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This post is for you if you accept that you are overweight, do not conveniently blame it on genetics and are determined to lose weight.<br />
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<b><i><u>4. How to lose weight?</u></i></b><br />
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For those who are still with me - answer to the question 'How to lose weight?' is not a secret obviously, the keys are Diet and Exercise. The difficult part is how to implement it, unfortunately it doesn't happen by any magic trick (as I was hoping).<br />
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I like what they say about Hinduism - 'It is not a religion but a way of life'. </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;">It sure is applicable in case of weight loss - It is not something that you do every Sunday but needs to become a way of life.<br />
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If we don't change our core lifestyle then the lost pounds keep coming back.<br />
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<i>For losing weight one needs to sacrifice a lot of things.</i> WRONG. </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;">If weight loss is an important goal for you then what you give up is not sacrifice but gain/ profit. So nowhere in this post am I going to say 'I sacrificed...' NOPE it is all gain (in this case loss ;-), we don't want weight gain ;-) ). </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;">The things I gave up do not matter much to me as looking thinner gives me utmost happiness. I still have to lose 8 more pounds but I already love how I look now (f**k modesty).<br />
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<b><i><u><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2813dQvoLsM47rQ4tVvwpnuZvTetx6zwr4ejBWAjj7A_LUBL9V3LsTLEOMOG_oKn-9_s1IPSNptTmX8pZiXA-GfnK2fPPTSyyDQefHs9DRDPd1deb8Zb3cULlxnSgs_NkHxLdM4VooAQf8caktpKZWXC-nbwQyvsTmVQW-teGKfZrYeB67Q/s640/4.jpeg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="338" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2813dQvoLsM47rQ4tVvwpnuZvTetx6zwr4ejBWAjj7A_LUBL9V3LsTLEOMOG_oKn-9_s1IPSNptTmX8pZiXA-GfnK2fPPTSyyDQefHs9DRDPd1deb8Zb3cULlxnSgs_NkHxLdM4VooAQf8caktpKZWXC-nbwQyvsTmVQW-teGKfZrYeB67Q/s320/4.jpeg" width="169" /></a></div><br />5. How to find time for weight loss project?</u></i></b><br />
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In order to Exercise you need Time and that is the second most lame reason I have heard about being overweight - 'I don't have time to exercise'.<br />
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In my denial phase I have used both lame reasons myself - 'It is genetic' and 'I don't have time'. <br />
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Time - everyone gets 24 hours a day, no one is blessed enough to have more, seriously! The most important thing you need to do to find 'time' in your routine - <b>Simplify. </b></span></div>
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A. <b><i><u>Possessions</u></i></b>: Minimize things that you have. Clean up your house, organize it, donate/ throw away things that are not required. This saves up time that you spend on managing, cleaning and finding stuff. Simplify Clutter. So if you have a bunch of kids and pets then you are doomed ;-) just kidding... I am sure you will still be able to simplify in any given situation.</span></blockquote>
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B. <u style="font-style: italic;"><b>Relationships</b>:</u> Do you like quality or variety? I like quality and hang out only with people whom I get along very well. Relationships that give you stress, humiliation, unhappiness are not worth having. Cut Down... you will be saving a lot of energy, frustration and in return what you get is time to do things that matter.</span></blockquote>
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C. <u style="font-style: italic;"><b>Actions</b>:</u> Are there any junk actions that you can live without? which are not helping you in any which way? For example - I cut my hair short and saved the time to manage and set long hair, didn't get my nails done, didn't go shopping AT ALL for 3 whole years... it was hard :-) </span></blockquote>
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I am sure you can think of some actions that you can cut down on. Video games anyone? </span></blockquote>
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D. <u style="font-style: italic;"><b>Chores</b>:</u> Get Help! Rather than spending on expensive brands/ jewelry and what not, spend on maids who can help you cook, hire house cleaners. Delegate tasks. </span></blockquote>
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I don't know, but may be you are helping a friend's kid learn Spanish when you can actually use that time to work out. Well, trust me your friend will manage. Make a priority list and cut down the non important stuff.</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: medium; text-align: left;">E. <i><b><u>E for e-clutter</u></b></i> - I delete all my emails unless there is some action that needs to be taken. I am subscribed to a very few people on social accounts. Other sources where I lost a lot of my time - you know celebrities wearing nice clothes and make up and posting their pictures from every angle everyday - fuck them - those pictures are not adding any value to anyone's life so I unsubscribed to all celebrity accounts I followed. Cut down the e-clutter - This is the biggest time saver.</span></blockquote>
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F. <u style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Parallel task</u><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"> - </span>I take care of laundry, ironing, cleaning etc. while I listen to audiobooks, I am sure you should be able to make a list of things that you don't want to cut down on and can also be done in parallel. </span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="text-align: left;"> G</span>. <u><i><b>At Work: </b></i></u>All of the above (which ever is applicable for you) needs to be applied at work as well. I would highly recommend the book Essentialism: The disciplined pursuit of less by Greg McKeown. </span></blockquote>
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If you are someone who is overly ambitious and after money/ promotions and all that jazz (or work with Amazon ;-) ) then what can I say?.. just Get a fuckin' LIFE!</span></blockquote>
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A. Exercise, B.Focus on diet, C. Sleep, D. Read, E. Take a hobby.</span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-size: medium;">Because that is also important for mental health.<br />
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<b><i><u>A.Exercise: </u></i></b><br />
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'Gyms are expensive' this is the third most lame reason I have heard
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<li><span style="font-size: medium;"><u><i><b>Aerobic -</b></i></u> hiking, biking, running, aerobic gym classes like boot camp, bosu circuit, HIIT training etc.</span></li>
<li><u><i><b><span style="font-size: medium;">Weight Training</span></b></i></u></li>
<li><u><i><b><span style="font-size: medium;">YOGA and pilates</span></b></i></u></li>
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Notice how I have written Yoga in all caps? that is how much it helped me in every which way to have a mental, emotional and physical balance.<br />
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Exercise helps one feel energetic, increases immune system, improves mental health, helps your heart function normally and of course helps with weight loss. I can not insist more that how much it is important for everyone to exercise (even if you don't want to lose weight).<br />
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<b><i><u>7. What about Energy?</u></i></b><br />
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We have a great fear of getting tired so we look for an easy way out. Any energy depleted is
not lost forever. Why do we plan our fatigue the same way we plan work? Most of us barely move as we need to 'save energy' to work out at the gym, there too we time ourselves, count repetitions, track the heart rate. These days people wear those wrist bands which even tracks how much they slept! If you wake up and feel fresh then you slept well... Similarly if you feel like working out in the morning and then again in the evening go for it!<br />
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STOP robotic routines, move around, run, walk, do Pilates, go biking, climb hills - There is no rule how many times or how much to do... just do it as much as you can... because you can!<br />
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Stop staring at the idiot box for hours, consumption is easy, creation is hard and creation is something that gives us long lasting happiness. In this case it is creating a good healthy body. <br />
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Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-53774329479879291712022-12-10T16:25:00.002-08:002022-12-10T16:25:00.147-08:00WhatzApp Message...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjoFfC5NXUfZtv_zSfBhb14A-101PAKymAsAcEkM-Ixiv2YUQUPyQLl_tbbPMjkd9Wi1dZ7bVaN3EoUrdP4VDzaSYODqj8BKMtPJrcOtEM_ZBwppfCxClOy1hYHh41A0vCS9k0Tfbz9Wkr5F4akxzlJ7kLqZGZLYxyWZf4F4KZ7fsPbZctthw/s800/feminism.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="554" data-original-width="800" height="222" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjoFfC5NXUfZtv_zSfBhb14A-101PAKymAsAcEkM-Ixiv2YUQUPyQLl_tbbPMjkd9Wi1dZ7bVaN3EoUrdP4VDzaSYODqj8BKMtPJrcOtEM_ZBwppfCxClOy1hYHh41A0vCS9k0Tfbz9Wkr5F4akxzlJ7kLqZGZLYxyWZf4F4KZ7fsPbZctthw/s320/feminism.jpeg" width="320" /></a></div><br />You know sometimes we get these stupid forwards which are sent without thinking it over twice... I received one such forward -<br />
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It said "Our generation is becoming so busy trying to prove that women can do what men can do that women are losing their uniqueness. Women weren't created to do everything a man can do. Women were created to do everything a man can't do."<br />
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What a blunder of a statement!<br />
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When you say 'Women weren't created to do everything a man can do. Women were created to do everything a man can not do' - you are assuming that people and the whole existence was created and there is a creator with consciousness - who planned it out that this is how a man will look and this is what he will do - this is how a woman will look and these will be her tasks - that assumption in itself is so idiotic that I do not need to explain it further.. But I am still going to do that - </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;">Let us assume for a minute that there is a creator who had everything planned then you are assuming that a man was created first and the left-over tasks were assigned to a woman - Please tell me how was the man created in the first place if not from a woman's womb? - so let us rewrite the statement in a correct way (for fun as it still assumes that there is a creator) - a man was created by a woman to delegate things that she didn't want to do ;-)</span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;">
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Let's look at the next statement - 'Our generation is becoming so busy trying to prove that women can do what men can do that women are losing their uniqueness' -</span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;">So men and women have unique traits which are specific to their gender and which shouldn’t overlap?</span></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><p data-adtags-visited="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 1.8em;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;">My question is – who gets to decide what men can do? Who is trying to prove this, and to whom are they trying to prove it? One could argue that it no longer needs to proven to anybody – that was accomplished generations ago.</span></p><p data-adtags-visited="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 1.8em;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;">What needs to be focused on is the encouragement of women in whatever field they wish to pursue. Individual passion, work ethic and ability will determine whether one succeeds in a particular type of job or skill, not gender alone. But hearing voices which value their ambition and drive, rather than questioning or disapproving of it, is so important to the success of young women in a variety of fields.</span></p></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;">The second thing is why would anyone want to prove that they can do what a man can do? - you are posing it here as if men are doing something extraordinarily awesome that is completely out of reach of the other gender, well, you are not. Our generation of women is just rebellious enough to grab opportunities which were always rightfully ours- equally.<br />
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Differences in brain physiology between sexes do not necessarily relate to differences in intellect. Although men have bigger brain size which is partly explained by their bigger bodies, women have a greater cortical thickness, cortical complexity and cortical surface area (controlling for body size) which compensates for smaller brain size. If you were checking IQ test papers with no names on it then you wouldn't be able to tell the race, color, sexual orientation nor gender from the results. Two people can have the same IQ - irrespective of anything.<br />
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Also what kind of uniqueness are we talking about in the statement? that women can give birth? </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;">Taking care of household things cannot be an uniqueness because it needs two hands to take care of things and men who have hands should be able to take care of it too, unless they lack brain power to do simple mundane tasks like dishes or are physically so weak that they can not gather the energy to move around and take care of chores - that would explain their bulging paunch by the way!</span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><p data-adtags-visited="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 1.8em;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;">Our sense of uniqueness isn’t dependent on the gender expectations of others.</span></p><p data-adtags-visited="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 1.8em;"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><span style="background-color: transparent;">People call me a 'feminist' as if I hate men - I do not hate men, I love both sexes, in fact, men more so (as I have spent hours thinking about them;-)). But I am just an </span><em style="background-color: transparent;">equalist</em><span style="background-color: transparent;">. I never liked hearing men are better than women at anything and I don't want to do that disservice to the other sex.</span></span></p><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;">
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But do I really think all the men are my equal? No. They are not. Some are better, some are equal and some are <strong>different</strong> (just being diplomatic).<br />
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Do I really think all the women are my equal? No. They are not. And the same logic as above applies.</span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br />
Are two men equal in their strengths and weaknesses? No. Are two sexes equal in their strengths and weaknesses? No. Are two women equal in their strengths and weaknesses? No. </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;">But they do deserve an equal opportunity to try everything, to get what they rightfully deserve (that means if a job is dependent on a test result then whoever tops the list should get it) and an equal reward for a work well done... and not judging anyone based on gender roles which were defined over a thousand of years ago... And that's the point of <em>equalism</em> (in my books).</span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #073763; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><p data-adtags-visited="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 1.8em;"><br /></p></div>
Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-82977310643772126932022-12-03T13:37:00.001-08:002022-12-03T13:37:04.523-08:00New video - 5 books by 5 female writers <p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/OkaEu73izOM" width="320" youtube-src-id="OkaEu73izOM"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-59285071142852633152022-11-11T14:46:00.001-08:002022-11-11T14:46:00.149-08:00The in-laws problem<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span id="docs-internal-guid-b24ef8c4-7fff-15e0-a57e-e55ea6ca1405" style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwVWbGqqeWgfVB_lNMf21Zt2Qdhl1khw80dV5aJj_-zfFxhSzFAtd25aIdsR8DIWN_pPyi-juaajNn3MotwcWJuZ8p85H02BKC_sgzRpOqVZYFTgOnuHFM6NnkV_zyJNbNkYx88TO8Hve-DLRVRw7W2xjuYMmBsKI0sfEIthw0nlzDhfVDGg/s725/in-laws%20problem.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="725" data-original-width="650" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwVWbGqqeWgfVB_lNMf21Zt2Qdhl1khw80dV5aJj_-zfFxhSzFAtd25aIdsR8DIWN_pPyi-juaajNn3MotwcWJuZ8p85H02BKC_sgzRpOqVZYFTgOnuHFM6NnkV_zyJNbNkYx88TO8Hve-DLRVRw7W2xjuYMmBsKI0sfEIthw0nlzDhfVDGg/s320/in-laws%20problem.jpeg" width="287" /></a></span></div><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br />According to Cambridge University psychologist, Terri Apter, 3 out of 4 couples experience significant conflict with their in-laws so chances are high that you are one of those 3 couples.</span><p></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I am yet to meet a married girl who has in-laws and does not complain about them. Why are so many of them complaining I thought? There has to be something wrong with this system…</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">This is my analysis of the problem based on the examples that I have heard. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">example 1</span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> - a woman once told me '</span><span style="font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">my daughter in law does what she wants, she goes for parties, she also wears mini skirts and I have no objection. I have given her all the freedom and yet she does not behave well with me</span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">'.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">And this is what I said to the lady - </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Your daughter in law is a free citizen of a free nation, freedom is her birthright, Who exactly do you think you are to give her freedom? </span><span style="font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span><span style="font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">And that is problem number 1. Just because someone is married to your son does not make you their authority. unless there is a change in the mindset how can there be any improvement in the relationship? </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">example 2 -</span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> Since I live in the USA I get to hear the problems ladies living outside of India have. The ladies travel to India for a few days in a year and before leaving for India they go through sleepless nights and anxiety attacks. Why? because they are not just expected to but also forced and mentally tortured to stay with their in-laws during the trip. Not obliging by it causes so much drama in their daily lives that they choose to rather oblige. It wrenches my heart when I hear these kinds of stories. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The ladies have their own parents that they are wanting to spend time with, just like your sons do. Torturing women to sacrifice time with their parents is nothing but cruel. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The man has his own side of the family and the woman has her own side of the family, it is an amalgamation of families, no one family owns the other person.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Daughter in law is solely responsible for the entire family’s happiness, she is at the bottom of the ladder in the family and has to prove herself, she has to respect no matter what, she needs to sacrifice her feelings and her family, and after marriage in-laws' house is where she belongs. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">If you think this way - REALLY! What century do you come from? How can anybody think that getting married means the end of her relationship with her parents, who gave her birth, who did everything for her, and because of whom she is and has - whether it’s professional or personal achievements? Many Indian men live with uncut umbilical cords all their lives and expect women to sacrifice. Unfair. Illogical. Unhuman.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Example 3</span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> -</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">A lot of people have asked me to compare my sister in laws based on how much they have cared for me and my parents. No one has ever asked me to compare me and my brothers based on the caring factor.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">It is fascinating to see that women are expected to take care of their in-laws. The ladies are not little care packages sent to take care of your family, your parents are your responsibility, the ladies have their own parents to take care of. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">What generally happens is people become part of an extended family, spend time with each other, show each other respect, get fond of each other and then want to spend more time with each other and then start caring for each other, which has happened with my sisters-in-law organically, but that scenario is different than someone being judged solely based on gender roles. Regressive thinking regarding women and gender roles prevails in the world, many times it is unconscious, it is so deep-rooted in our psyche that people don't even realize that they are being biased.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Example 4 -</span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> "</span><span style="font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">You know Rasika, this X person cooks for 10 people every day, and also, she is not allowed to eat before her in-laws do, but she is managing it wonderfully. she is so courageous</span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">". </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">When I heard those words I thought I had time traveled to the 1600s. I feel that on many occasions. Time travel would be fun but preferably to the future, and I am assuming humans have evolved in the future. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">So this X person was not allowed to eat at her own will. Just so you know..Even when she was pregnant. And she is called courageous for abiding by some stupid egomaniac people. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Sacrificing, obedience, getting tortured, and yet not speaking a word against it, not standing up for yourself are not a courageous person's strengths they are a weak person's weaknesses. When it comes to women Don't glorify sacrifice and obedience, these very characteristics shackle them.</span></p><br /><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Example 5 - </span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Ever heard any in-laws getting mad to see that their son was taking care of the household chores? I have seen this happening with many of my girlfriends. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I find it quite weird when people complain ‘oh my son has to </span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">help</span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> her in the kitchen’. What that means is household chores are her responsibility and the husband has to </span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">help</span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> her. They both have full-time jobs, they both own a house, they both together made kids - tell me how is it her job to take care of all of it? These tasks are their responsibilities - together. He isn't helping her, he is just owning the fair share of his responsibilities.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I have heard many more examples </span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">of women being observed, judged, and criticized by their husband's family... for being different, for following different customs, habits, traditions, gods - and at times for not following any. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I have a little Advice for the men </span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">- A friend once told me that her mother in law asks questions like "How was the party you went to yesterday? how does your new dress look?".</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I asked her what was wrong with her asking those questions. And she said, " But I never told her that I bought a new dress or went to a party, </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">So, Her husband was providing this trivial information to his mother. Here is the thing - DON'T DO THAT.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">From what your wife wears to the status of her menstrual cramps, is her private information. you can not provide it to your parents just because you happen to know it. Unless you have her consent which is unlikely.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">if you want to complain about her then find a friend, don't criticize her in front of your parents. She already has a strained relationship with them and you are going to strain it even further by complaining about her.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">let your parents know clearly that you will not allow them to treat your wife shabbily or even with an authority. From what I hear, when a husband stands by his wife, nobody from his family bothers her. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Advice for the women</span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> -</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Stand up for yourself -</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">because not speaking about it is like giving them permission to behave badly with you. And then you will have to go on taking all that controlling, criticism and BS.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Know that as an adult, you get to decide when you eat, what you eat, where you stay when you visit India or how you share the household responsibilities with your partner. You have freedom of choice.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Advice for the Girl's parents:</span><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">A friend’s mother told her that she needs to be strong, and that means don’t settle with any kind of torture by your in-laws or for that matter by anyone - but stand up against it. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">This is the kind of parent we should aspire to be. If your daughter is tortured emotionally, physically by her husband or in-laws, she is going to need support. And you will need to stand by her when she is standing up against cruelty.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Till today Thousands of women leave their husbands because they are tortured, some even brutally, at the hands of their in-laws, no need to say that a change in our mentality towards women needs to happen right away.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">And I know there are extreme examples of women killed for dowry by inlaws but the examples I </span><span style="font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">mentioned in this post are not trivial, they are equally important because we unnecessarily torture women on an emotional level, we deprive them of leading wholesome free lives by controlling them for irrelevant things and chip away at the quality of their life.</span></p></span></div>
Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-49904722019822763592022-10-22T15:35:00.001-07:002022-10-22T15:35:01.471-07:00New video - the story of confirmation bias<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/ywbH1-K_eus" width="320" youtube-src-id="ywbH1-K_eus"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-13860760314121946252022-10-14T16:33:00.008-07:002023-02-20T21:29:05.738-08:00Women and their cooking<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<em>Question 2</em> - If you get picked up at the airport by a <strong>woman</strong>, you spend the night at her house, she orders a pizza for dinner, you eat, sleep and leave the next day, reach your home ... what will you tell about the woman to your family?<br />
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<em>Question 3</em> - If you get picked up at the airport by a <b>family</b>, you spend the night at their house, they order a pizza for dinner, you eat, sleep and leave the next day, reach your home ... what will you tell about the family to your family?<br />
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<em>Answer 1</em> - the man was awesome, warm, and welcoming, he went out of the way to take care of me.<br />
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<em>Answer 2</em> - the woman picked me up fine but you know what, she didn't even cook for me, she ordered pizza, oh how much did I miss home-cooked food.<br />
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<em>Answer 3</em> - the family picked me up, <strong>the man</strong> has a beautiful house, but you know what, the woman didn't even cook for me, she ordered pizza, oh how much did I miss home-cooked food.</span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">I personally have experienced being judged on my cooking enthusiasm and skills many many times. So it does not matter what I did for the guests they always complained behind my back saying she didn't cook for me.<br />
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It is expected of women that they are welcoming and warm by cooking for the guests, this is never an expectation from the men. I don't understand these kinds of people. Most of the new generation ladies do not have their hobby/pastime set as cooking, they do not even boast about their cooking skills and nor do I. But don't get me wrong, I eat, simple home-cooked, fresh food every day, I don't cook because I am a woman but because it is a good idea to eat home-cooked meals (at least 9/10). I do not like to cook, I am not a confident cook either so if there was a huge party of sorts then the biggest way I can help is by staying away from the kitchen, and guess what, I know many more ladies who are like me.<br />
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How many of you were told this phrase that <em>'the road to a man's heart goes through his stomach'.</em></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">If someone tells me that phrase then I tell them I would rather get to a person's heart through their brain, trust me many men have one. <br />
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How many times have you been for a lunch/dinner party where women are in the kitchen while men are sitting outside in the living room, chatting away... I don't understand that... and I don't just sit there thinking why are the women cooking and men are sitting outside ... I go out and about and express it, speak about it, sometimes nicely and sometimes harshly, does not matter if people call me a madwoman, there are people who laugh at me and they don't even understand that the joke is actually on them. orthodox/idiotic/regressive thought process is the laughable thing in today's times. </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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It is high time the world changes, we are an advanced/intelligent species to be living with such idiotic customs. It is high time that we stop judging women based on if they cooked for us or not. </span></div>
Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-15646512392493561912022-10-03T15:30:00.001-07:002022-10-03T15:30:00.141-07:00Favorite City<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I leave a piece of my heart in every city I visit. Every place I go, I visit it with a curious and an open mind. So far there hasn't been a city/ village/ town that I didn't like.</span></div>
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I feel connected to every other place in India, it will be another post if I want to write about India. Outside of India, my favorite city is London, because it is special. The first place that I visited outside India was London.</span></div>
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Switzerland is my favorite country because it is extremely scenic and I went there on my own, walked the streets on my own, somewhere deep down in hope that I will find my Raj there - Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge hangover! No need to tell you that I didn't find any Raj but figured out that traveling alone is so much fun.</span></div><div class="post-header-line-1"><span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggnnfXP9F99GLXlu0XKuPBqc5eVrMeNB9DkJyZP8jmzTsLXagiwL1G-CF5VMdEWCY2BWSQTi5T78C7x9vGnPfDdYysVBn4q34VA80be3tM0PqoxiSsTBOhPIDHt7qlw29cUMcosMKXumd150ySP1qO0E6xnuHSvaMtF2dkeDMdOgeU4hbFdg/s1600/IMG_9416.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1069" data-original-width="1600" height="214" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggnnfXP9F99GLXlu0XKuPBqc5eVrMeNB9DkJyZP8jmzTsLXagiwL1G-CF5VMdEWCY2BWSQTi5T78C7x9vGnPfDdYysVBn4q34VA80be3tM0PqoxiSsTBOhPIDHt7qlw29cUMcosMKXumd150ySP1qO0E6xnuHSvaMtF2dkeDMdOgeU4hbFdg/s320/IMG_9416.JPG" width="320" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivTbqFexd936lpe86GdNyhFLJvcjCnErfwHHoiTYJBl7nWfWVkgn7pAM2yKAF_g5pCHhGs5BPCXrBKdAOLcJyCOAZa9dufevb7ZGkRlQRTiiHgwJFDG9nBEAfHj2-zkMJMxmbgowuAduH20v7NG5egW_DOdkpzWnObxqg3Q_-R5zKSA3WgnA/s1600/IMG_9313.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1069" data-original-width="1600" height="214" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivTbqFexd936lpe86GdNyhFLJvcjCnErfwHHoiTYJBl7nWfWVkgn7pAM2yKAF_g5pCHhGs5BPCXrBKdAOLcJyCOAZa9dufevb7ZGkRlQRTiiHgwJFDG9nBEAfHj2-zkMJMxmbgowuAduH20v7NG5egW_DOdkpzWnObxqg3Q_-R5zKSA3WgnA/s320/IMG_9313.JPG" width="320" /></a></div></span></div>
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Seattle obviously is very close to my heart. There is no place on earth like Seattle, the emerald city. I have lived in quite a few places and Seattle is where I have lived for the longest... more than 12 years.</span></div>
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New York felt like oxygen. But Paris my friends, is magical. If I had to pick a city where I would like to go back and wander aimlessly and still stumble upon culture, history, museums and charming neighborhoods it would definitely be Paris. I have so much ground to cover on this earth, but I am adding Paris, and France for that matter (Nice, Antibe, Canne), to the 'must go back again' list.</span></div>
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Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-53468943379070748262022-09-30T07:55:00.002-07:002022-09-30T07:55:29.648-07:00New video - Best Biology Books<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/_a4-YbP6M3k" width="320" youtube-src-id="_a4-YbP6M3k"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-78119756865969946972022-09-02T08:40:00.004-07:002022-09-02T08:40:56.567-07:00The business of spirituality- new video<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/UlOvS_qrKk4" width="320" youtube-src-id="UlOvS_qrKk4"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-75591364055795794422022-08-25T16:34:00.007-07:002022-08-25T16:34:50.668-07:00Best Books by Dr Michio Kaku<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="347" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/fOpYM2QOIiw" width="481" youtube-src-id="fOpYM2QOIiw"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-50372205515392410822022-07-17T04:33:00.003-07:002022-07-17T04:33:55.227-07:00The habit of reading books<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/kRlhOe2LXQM" width="320" youtube-src-id="kRlhOe2LXQM"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-19320757320724857032022-07-16T19:28:00.000-07:002022-07-16T19:28:00.150-07:00Confirmation Bias<span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /><span><br /></span><span><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMBsR7RbcotVqlf8OrCWJ8FQnbFX2eVKtnrLAUQ0PoUfPWTiwR2Nmu5NXz2qWRwBDIOv6jrp2Zf2knsNSpOivbD2FySR-uZTPFQuhCOBCujF29C_cNag77c9jvFj0F_7FcvnFvCSkulSPaL7DTo3yiJg7rOBPKAjSN3Khj077zo0OcFRvHAA/s1400/confirmation%20bias.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="787" data-original-width="1400" height="360" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMBsR7RbcotVqlf8OrCWJ8FQnbFX2eVKtnrLAUQ0PoUfPWTiwR2Nmu5NXz2qWRwBDIOv6jrp2Zf2knsNSpOivbD2FySR-uZTPFQuhCOBCujF29C_cNag77c9jvFj0F_7FcvnFvCSkulSPaL7DTo3yiJg7rOBPKAjSN3Khj077zo0OcFRvHAA/w640-h360/confirmation%20bias.png" width="640" /></a></div><br />Confirmation bias</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>is our tendency</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>to cherry-pick information that confirms our</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>existing beliefs</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>or ideas. </span></span><div><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /><span>And how do we form beliefs and ideas?</span><br /><span>Many of them</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>are imbibed in us since childhood,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>our background, reading, upbringing, surroundings.</span><br /><span><br /></span></span></div><div><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><span>Confirmation bias is somewhat linked to our memories.</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /></span><div style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia;"><div style="text-align: left;">We have a fondness for<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>recalling evidence that backs<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>up our beliefs.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-converted-space"><br /></span></div></span></span></div><div style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia;"><div style="text-align: left;">As Leo Tolstoy wrote:</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div></span></span></div><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><span></span><blockquote><span>The most</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>difficult subjects can be explained to the most</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>slow-witted man if he</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>has not formed any idea of them already;</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>but the simplest thing cannot</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>be made clear</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>to the most</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>intelligent man</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>if he is firmly persuaded that</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>he knows</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>already,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>without a</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>shadow of doubt, what is laid before him.</span></blockquote><span><br /><br /></span></span><div style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia;"><div style="text-align: left;">Examples of confirmation bias are endless<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>and are not<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>just restricted<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>to faith and<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>religions. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div></span></span></div><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><span><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgAc5QzjzkkoMQi2rvm89_NceAL09T_hHJo_rXB3dTg_9EaCzH3e7kYLf3t89JaWpFO9sG4HQ-qOCguSYmwyiFhDRJVaDv4X8FLempy6RO_alKoFGU3FlbOcBjqryj0XNX5uSFQwsJP2WFcX3Tuq93BdSw5IfRDAPWKrnH1u2DiOR-HBghjHA/s674/homeopathy.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="450" data-original-width="674" height="214" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgAc5QzjzkkoMQi2rvm89_NceAL09T_hHJo_rXB3dTg_9EaCzH3e7kYLf3t89JaWpFO9sG4HQ-qOCguSYmwyiFhDRJVaDv4X8FLempy6RO_alKoFGU3FlbOcBjqryj0XNX5uSFQwsJP2WFcX3Tuq93BdSw5IfRDAPWKrnH1u2DiOR-HBghjHA/s320/homeopathy.jpeg" width="320" /></a></div><br />Take for example - Homeopathy</span><br /><span>The multibillion-dollar</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>homeopathy</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>industry is an example of mass confirmation bias.</span><br /><span>Homeopathy</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>was invented by</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>a French</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>researcher studying histamines.</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>He became convinced that</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>as a solution of histamines was diluted,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>the effectiveness increased due</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>to what he termed</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>“water memories.”</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>He was so certain of his hypothesis</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>that he found</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>data to confirm</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>it and ignored</span><br /></span><div style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia;"><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>that which<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>did not. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div></span></span></div><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><span>And the</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>same thing</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>applies for people using homeopathy.</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>They will not</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>read the</span><br /><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>research done</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>by thousands of scientists all</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>over the</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>world to show</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>that homeopathy</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>is a fraud. </span><br /><span>They will read articles that support</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>homeopathy and</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>deny the fact</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>that the medicine simply gives them a placebo effect.</span><br /><span>Countries like India recognize an entire medical degree in Homeopathy. This just helps spread the confirmation bias. </span><br /><span><br /></span></span><div style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia;"><div style="text-align: left;">We would still<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>be living in idiotic primeval<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>times if no<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>one was<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>challenging the people in<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>power who<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>make decisions. </div></span></span></div><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><span><br /></span><span>Same applies</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>on a personal</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>level. If no one</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>challenges</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>our thought</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>process</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>then how</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>does a person</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>grow?</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>How do</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>we evolve?</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>How do we</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>come out</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>of the bubbles</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>of ideas</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>that we are</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>born and brainwashed into.</span><br /><span>When we</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>read/ listen/</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>discuss/ watch</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>things that</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>do not support</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>our own beliefs</span><br /><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>is the time</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>when we</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>get a different perspective,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>and see the</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>world through</span><br /><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>a new lens. </span><br /><span><br /></span><span>And We all</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>have confirmation biases.</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>However small</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>or big.</span></span></div><div><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /><span>The complexity</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>of confirmation</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>bias arises</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>partly from</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>the fact that</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>it is impossible</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>to overcome</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>it without an awareness</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>of the concept.</span><br /><span> </span><br /><span>If we talk about our</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>beliefs then</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>we need to</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>think</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>Do I just want</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>to prove myself</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>right in this conversation</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>or Is it my confirmation</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>bias that</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>I need to</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>work on?</span><br /><span>The biggest confirmation</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>bias I had</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>was when</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>it came to</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>fitness and diet. </span><br /></span><div style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia;"><div style="text-align: left;">I have seen my parents<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>work out<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>every day -<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>doing yoga<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>and going<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>for walks.<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-converted-space"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-converted-space"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj1lIdUv6DJJvRUmakpE5ubRK_I_wh4KHV0cSc5MAj90gFC6pFlnnuLiT0bzxCbd-CVBFtoCXtdi-GRlB9qaRTy_mQcPdUqeOFssyGQV68CFa-58cDioLaDUM1EacrWnE_6SM-kwe-5U4oGb5trugMRp0RMWDW4ts3OqrXvlZLsRPjdtuMrlA/s1333/confo%20bias.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1000" data-original-width="1333" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj1lIdUv6DJJvRUmakpE5ubRK_I_wh4KHV0cSc5MAj90gFC6pFlnnuLiT0bzxCbd-CVBFtoCXtdi-GRlB9qaRTy_mQcPdUqeOFssyGQV68CFa-58cDioLaDUM1EacrWnE_6SM-kwe-5U4oGb5trugMRp0RMWDW4ts3OqrXvlZLsRPjdtuMrlA/s320/confo%20bias.png" width="320" /></a></div><span>And so it</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>was imbibed</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>it in me unconsciously,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>that exercise</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>is a part</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>of our day</span></div></span></span></div><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>like brushing</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>our teeth</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>and that those</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>are the best</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>forms of</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>exercises.</span><br /><span> </span><br /></span><div style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia;"><div style="text-align: left;">My parents<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>eat after every<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>few hours, everything including<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>sugar but<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>in little quantities,<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>And that<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>is how I<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>exercised<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>and that is<span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span>how I ate.</div></span></span></div><div style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-converted-space" style="color: #274e13;"></span></div></span></span></div><p><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /> </span></p><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>If anyone said anything against</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>it then I</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>made sure</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>to read more</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>articles that supported my</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>belief and</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>sent them</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>over to shut</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>people up.</span><br /><span>Why did I</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>or anyone else</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>does that?</span><br /><span> </span><br /><span>because we would rather</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>keep doing</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>the same</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>things that</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>now have</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>become a</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>way of our life, they are</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>convenient</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>and are in</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>our comfort zone. </span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>Learning a</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>new way</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>means agreeing</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>that what</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>we and our parents and</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>people around</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>us did all</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>their lives</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>was wrong</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>all along.And how</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>can we let that happen?</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>So we hold</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>on to it even</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>tighter when challenged.</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span><br /></span><span> </span><br /><span>And then I happened</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>to come across articles on</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>intermittent diet,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>and how</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>sugar is poison</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>even if eaten in small</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>quantity,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>and also</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>about the</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>importance of cardio,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>strength and</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>HIIT -</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>High Intensity</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>Interval Training. </span><br /><span><br /></span><span> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi70ZDxkkxtJN4LZbsAIZmRsNcaRuCZ7wX3wSbW1LE-XHUwDJApv02ibj3_vkJVI976zHClzUMZ38ilNw2J1eKwWMdukno3z4tTnMtDBfR0Pup2iWEUswxyjvpuZyHIk1jM0fLW7-qUjnfqNhr86NPfzPOh316q2YWmtGhjVDExWoXlEuhJ1Q/s1200/conf%20bias.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="630" data-original-width="1200" height="210" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi70ZDxkkxtJN4LZbsAIZmRsNcaRuCZ7wX3wSbW1LE-XHUwDJApv02ibj3_vkJVI976zHClzUMZ38ilNw2J1eKwWMdukno3z4tTnMtDBfR0Pup2iWEUswxyjvpuZyHIk1jM0fLW7-qUjnfqNhr86NPfzPOh316q2YWmtGhjVDExWoXlEuhJ1Q/w400-h210/conf%20bias.png" width="400" /></a></div>So the point</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>is we all</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>need to sit down for a</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>second and ask ourselves...</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>why do I follow/ believe what I believe</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>and how</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>can I get another perspective</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>on the matter? </span></span></div><div><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><br /><span>And I truly</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>feel that we will find multiple things about ourselves,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>exercise and</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>diet is just one example I</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>told you about me,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>I still have a</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>number of</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>them and I am working on it... </span><br /><span>And I am not ashamed</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>to admit it.</span><br /><span>I am not one of those who</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>says ‘this is</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>how I am’</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /></span><div style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia;"><div style="text-align: left;">I am not.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div></span></span></div><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>I will keep</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> on </span><span>changing.</span><br /><span>Because</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>I feel Becoming</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>is more important than just being...</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span> being is stagnant, becoming is</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>evolving and</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>evolving is the ultimate success</span><br /><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>of any</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>human being, society,</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>company or country.</span><br /><span><br /></span><span>Or is it just my confirmation bias talking?</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /><span>Maybe I got</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>to ponder</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><span>over that too.</span><span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span><br /></span><div style="font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #274e13; font-family: georgia;"><div style="text-align: left;">Wink. ;-)</div></span></span></div><p class="p2" style="color: #eff3df; font-family: "Helvetica Neue"; font-size: 38.9px; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; text-align: left;"><br /></p></div>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-57871816831737513102022-06-25T17:51:00.006-07:002022-06-25T17:51:00.151-07:00Women, childbirth and their careers<p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZRjqsqbU4pS7Oi9aWdHT62kRUidcbWcbCVhGd8rU9Rgz-huLiGDW2MFxRyCIuapFEm13B0rQkWVLFcs81IBq3c9cWd1LOOjj3jRPkafaHEzEzuAXclYf6X2TRJibc3_4Sgrq-wtdIfS4hxMuaRDK3i0i60kS-5sQ1C8zV8pswexMjywYA2A/s730/women%20jobs.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="550" data-original-width="730" height="242" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZRjqsqbU4pS7Oi9aWdHT62kRUidcbWcbCVhGd8rU9Rgz-huLiGDW2MFxRyCIuapFEm13B0rQkWVLFcs81IBq3c9cWd1LOOjj3jRPkafaHEzEzuAXclYf6X2TRJibc3_4Sgrq-wtdIfS4hxMuaRDK3i0i60kS-5sQ1C8zV8pswexMjywYA2A/w320-h242/women%20jobs.png" width="320" /></a></span></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br />After having a kid, were you advised that now it would be good if you let go of your job and focus on the family, marriage and child?</span></span><p></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-8ce03470-7fff-8067-705a-1fb9de8b974a"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">And some stupid comments like – the one who earns lesser should leave the job to take care of a child.</span></span></p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">Due to historical advantages men obviously have more, they earn more. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">Till today the notion is it is women who need to sacrifice their ambition, dream, career and their financial independence. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">It is always a woman who takes a backseat after having children. Well, women scale back their career ambitions in order to focus on domestic matters – this inequality at home perpetuates inequality at work and also their salary. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">A man once said to me after watching my video 'the cooking chromosome' that - “men don’t cook because the one who earns less should take care of all house chores...” </span></span></p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">But Salaries are based on a bunch of factors. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">Maybe the man is a doctor and the woman is a nurse, they both work equal hours, the doctor is obviously going to earn more but how do you define who worked more? </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">If you were hospitalized for a couple of days after your surgery then who would you remember when you go home? Doctor or nurse? I have always remembered the nurses… </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">They are the caregivers.</span></span></p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">Maybe the man is a software engineer and his spouse is volunteering at an orphanage, </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">the man earns, the spouse doesn’t, but in the end who exactly has earned more? </span></span></p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">How do you define that? </span></span></p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">A person who earns more should not be responsible for the house chores - If you are saying that then you won’t stop there, this kind of person will also go on and say I will make all the decisions in this house because I earn more. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">That being said, sometimes bigger incomes are associated with more hours at work. In this case, I think the higher income earner should spend some of that money on a cleaning/ cooking service so there's less overall housekeeping to do for both of them.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.2; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIVittPx3mnP_CvlFCA1_o9whzLDn-Fr0IR101AjedVUQM61SVNuxAMb2ulMtUJO_jzVkGXib_boYVNf5V_zVVK4CJo-Wr7xcy4MsrtuTiApPWXrIp8NqJU1oJQgOVuXlpuQP-geTnYq8g5XlEzElqqH_37qh4aJqwQDlGvu2BrEVRMHtaRw/s1296/New-mom-working-at-home-1251486787_1298x812.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="810" data-original-width="1296" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIVittPx3mnP_CvlFCA1_o9whzLDn-Fr0IR101AjedVUQM61SVNuxAMb2ulMtUJO_jzVkGXib_boYVNf5V_zVVK4CJo-Wr7xcy4MsrtuTiApPWXrIp8NqJU1oJQgOVuXlpuQP-geTnYq8g5XlEzElqqH_37qh4aJqwQDlGvu2BrEVRMHtaRw/s320/New-mom-working-at-home-1251486787_1298x812.jpeg" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span><p></p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="background-color: transparent; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">And I feel every Working Mom Must Ask these questions Before Quitting their job -</span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="background-color: transparent; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><span style="background-color: white; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Ask yourself, is this a choice I would make if I were the higher-earning partner whose career was prioritized?</span><span style="background-color: white; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> </span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><span style="background-color: white; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: white; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">ask your partner: How can you equalize domestic labor and childcare?</span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="background-color: white; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span><span style="background-color: white; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">Ask your employer for more support for caregiving employees or if you can take an unpaid leave of absence, or work part-time.</span></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: white; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">Don’t quit your aspirations due to societal pressures and the idiotic reasoning of who earns more gets to keep the job. If women quit jobs then the higher earning party will always be men!</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: white; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: white; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;">Society is never happy, it doesn't matter what we do, and making them happy should not be our goal.</span></span></p><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "PT Serif", serif; font-size: 13.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></div></span>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-63692766685893662612022-06-20T13:31:00.003-07:002022-06-20T13:32:46.646-07:00Roar - fresh perspectives on womanhood <p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/wiMgt3zC5dw" width="320" youtube-src-id="wiMgt3zC5dw"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-35890594112062236352022-06-11T12:32:00.000-07:002022-06-11T12:32:00.138-07:00Some More Movies...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQ_wTX5mKsim53nO6b8i806IxxDDJI0Lwfp69E-ro2NxW-ylr9Dr4HaYYCgM3n9eEEJ3sQ46sFQZiFBifzyuI2ImevjRnjnFbMLZAwfqlnh5Vl4smbEz8aZUnQ8kmqCtPoogNBxPADuidCrIAVC7PtH_UMmbDKcOYoIRJXcl0Otvye44NTnQ/s933/budapest.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="color: #660000; font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><img border="0" data-original-height="933" data-original-width="700" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQ_wTX5mKsim53nO6b8i806IxxDDJI0Lwfp69E-ro2NxW-ylr9Dr4HaYYCgM3n9eEEJ3sQ46sFQZiFBifzyuI2ImevjRnjnFbMLZAwfqlnh5Vl4smbEz8aZUnQ8kmqCtPoogNBxPADuidCrIAVC7PtH_UMmbDKcOYoIRJXcl0Otvye44NTnQ/w135-h180/budapest.jpeg" width="135" /></span></a></div><span style="color: #660000; font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br />The Grand Budapest Hotel - Liked it, I had a smile all along.</span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #660000; font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #660000; font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br />
</span><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKAudeCvGf6oJdX0GowQ0nmOBEX6MqxHEQ8VrqIWuSoUuxFdy7utb9dWJLypTgMyf8f-DEn0ThcZDwq3z7et_bxFekBTN00l1QFE5jcUWJfwVhCj2HlPS1qQLT8W63sXUvGk7mLnoa29Y8osFoBBDWsn3fPkTCGw_S-wOSY4yDivFDzACySQ/s640/bangalore.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="color: #660000; font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><img border="0" data-original-height="360" data-original-width="640" height="113" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKAudeCvGf6oJdX0GowQ0nmOBEX6MqxHEQ8VrqIWuSoUuxFdy7utb9dWJLypTgMyf8f-DEn0ThcZDwq3z7et_bxFekBTN00l1QFE5jcUWJfwVhCj2HlPS1qQLT8W63sXUvGk7mLnoa29Y8osFoBBDWsn3fPkTCGw_S-wOSY4yDivFDzACySQ/w200-h113/bangalore.jpeg" width="200" /></span></a></div><span style="color: #660000; font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><br />Banglore Days - <span style="background-color: white; white-space: pre-wrap;">A top notch simple ,smooth and sweet three hour drama dwelling in and out with emotions of love and friendship....</span></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="color: #660000; font-family: verdana; font-size: medium;"><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span>
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Rasika Mahabalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09158620118595279907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26827645.post-72751565507288181452022-06-04T23:14:00.008-07:002022-06-04T23:14:00.134-07:00Women and Reservations<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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