The love and bond that a child and parent share is immensely beautiful. Parents provide the affection, direction, security, wiseness needed to survive, grow and be good humans. Even though we are born with an inherited set of genes, every child has his/her own traits, personality, dreams, attitude, desires, opinions and definitions of right or wrong.
'You can not marry that girl, chose X profession, you should live in Y city'...
If you act any other way we will be immensely hurt, we did such and such sacrifices for you and this is how you return the favor?'. I am sure you have heard this before. Parents start taking control of their children's life thinking they have a right to make decisions for their offspring.
Are we owners of someone's life simply because we brought them to this world?
No child born on planet Earth told their parents 'I want to experience life, I want to be born, please give me birth'. The nature creates the want in most living individuals to experience all the aspects associated with having a kid. Our genes are selfish they want to keep on living. If a parent is providing care, love, protection to their child, making all sorts of sacrifices then they are not doing anything out of ordinary. They do it simply because they are wired to do so. Why talk about favors then?
Until when would you interfere in decision making of your children? At certain age you need to start setting them free. Let them make their own mistakes and learn from it (I hope you get it when I say decisions and mistakes I am not talking about drugs or murder). Every individual will feel the need to fly, sometimes even towards that blazing Sun. Provide the strength to their wings to fly and reach their desired destination. Alter your strategy to match their personality. Don't be a controlling Indian parent, Let your children figure out something that you were unable to - the meaning of life, the goal of their existence.
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