Assess your relationships from time to time.
Stepping on each other’s toes? Frequently unhappy? More and more conversations leaving a bad taste in your mouth? Take a step back and try to be objective.
Ask yourself, Am I getting something valuable out of this relationship? Is there give and take? Am I being listened to? Do my thoughts and feelings count? Do I take the lead at least half the time? Is there an initiative from the other side - to meet, to connect, to talk? Am I respected in this relationship? Am I an equal in this relationship? Am I being taken for granted? Do I get to make my own decisions about personal things that affect no one else? Do I feel supported and affirmed by the other person?
Answer the above questions honestly. Be willing to look at the truth.
Some relationships add value, some are neutral, and some only add drama/ stress/ negativity/ toxicity/ criticism. Life is too short and too beautiful to spend it around negativity, the world is full of beauty, amazing things to do and superb people, no need to be around toxicity. Happiness is a choice and no one can make it for you, you yourself have to do it.
Do you feel you could’ve stopped some people from manipulating you sooner? Did you badly want to believe they were good? If the truth is undesirable, that’s okay. That’s what we humans do – we make mistakes.
You can always change course and begin to work on reclaiming your happiness.
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